3 Rants and Rave: Round 2

Rant: When people ask the WORLD, usually via the Facebook, questions that they could just Google the answer on their own. 

Hey you:  be self-sufficient, I'm not the Google. 

Rant: When you are excited about something and someone tries to "one up" you. What is that? We call them One Uppers at our house. 

Hey you: Get off my cloud...wait, no, get on my cloud- there is room for everyone.  We can all be excited about something, this is NOT a competition.

One Uppers: 1. get self-aware, please. 2. I'm not telling you my good stuff to make you jealous, I want to hear your good stuff too- share away, but could you put your listening ears on first, please?  I promise to give you the same respect.

Rant: When people say The Facebook, The Google, The Interwebs...what?! Oh. That's me.
Hey Me: Acknowledged. And I blame Nate.

Rave: To the Mama at the grocery store today that actually told her children "No, you may not have that" - good job!  To the same Mama that when her child said, "Mama, when I was at Kaley's house we...." and the Mama ACTUALLY listened to her child and then ENGAGED her with questions and more conversation. The Mama did not pick up her iPhone or give her the brush off, she actually LISTENED and SPOKE to her child. There was no "Mama, Mama, Mama, Mama..." So refreshing. 

Yes, being a mom is exhausting and it's not always easy to engage...I'm not talking about that right now, I just want to give this one Mama a shout out for (at least) appearing to care what her daughter had to say. Again. So refreshing. Good job, Mama.

2014 Words to Pray On

One of our wise church elders, Dr. Schommer, asked a group of us three-ish years ago, to think about what word describes our current struggle or needed/wanted growth area in our faith.

At that time Nate chose Calm. I chose Joy. (I know, y’all are shocked…it was my first year of learning to Choose Joy, so it made sense).

The next year my word was Listen, Listen to God- what is He saying to me?  And Nate’s word was Calm. Yes again. He was really working on being, acting, remaining Calm.

In 2013 my word was Discipline and Nate’s were Courage and Wisdom.

2014 has arrived and I have my words chosen.

This year my personal word is Grace. My ego thought I was pretty great at being graceful, however it was pointed out to me that I have some work to do on that.  Therefore I, graciously, accept that constructive critique and will be working on giving Grace, to others and to myself.  The scripture I will use to guide and remind me is Colossians 4:6 (NLT).

Colossians 4:2-6

Context: this is from Paul’s letter to the city of Colosse.

² Devote yourselves to prayer with an alert mind and a thankful heart. ³ Pray for us, too, that God will give us many opportunities to speak about his mysterious plan concerning Christ. That is why I am here in chains. ⁴ Pray that I will proclaim this message as clearly as I should. ⁵ Live wisely among those who are not believers, and make the most of every opportunity.⁶ Let your conversation be gracious and attractive so that you will have the right response for everyone.

I have a secondary word that I am sharing with a dear friend.  We are working being on Intentional, with our words and actions.

Nate is still deciding on his word. It might be Focus. I’ll update y’all when he decides.

So! What’s YOUR word to pray on this year?  I’d love to pray on it for (with) you. 

#20Bags20Days: Day 1

Choose 20 places (or 30 or 40, according to your family and home size) that need to be de-cluttered and/or transformed. Remove what you don't need/use/want and then toss it or donate it.

Apparently this project will be like confessing my hidden messy areas. I think I'll only show you a few, maybe more impressive transformations...I have a reputation to keep. Ha.

Day 1: The Linen Closet~ 

yes, this is our linen closet. yes, it is that small. yes, it is the only one we have.

BEFORE: here it is. for shame.

SIDE NOTE: I'd like to "blame" this hotttttt mess (below) on how high those shelves are.  In order to put anything in this closet above the middle section of band-aids, aloe vera and Advil I have to use a step stool. And yes, I occasionally just toss things up there and hope they stay.

AFTER: Ahhh.So.Much.Better.

Let's see how long I can keep this neat and tidy, step stool still required.

BAG COUNT: 2

1. one plastic regular-sized Target bag went into the garbage 

2. one large 13 gallon garbage bag ready for donation!

ALSO- why have I never bothered to paint the inside of that closet? It's hideous! 

Adding a paint job for the Linen Closet to our summer to-do list!

New Year's: Fresh Start

Cliché? Too bad. 

If you know me at all you know I love a fresh start, 

what’s more of a fresh start than the New Year? 

(also, I loathe the number 13, so I'm glad I can stop typing it everyday. yes, i have issues.)

We chose a few things that we can realistically

 accomplish in 2014. 

 It can't be accomplished if you don't try it!

Phillips 2014: Realistic Expectations

Savings jar: An easy way to save an extra $1378 this year ~ then we will doing something super fun with the money in 2015.

for the savings schedule click here

Friday night chores: This is a non-issue in the winter, however from May-September all we really want to do it be out on the boat throwing a line in. So we thought it was time to get balanced and compromised with the fish- we’ll stay off the lake on Friday nights and stay at home, eat at home and work on house projects. We’d really like to sell in two or three years but there are some projects that need our undivided attention before any calls to a realtor can be made. [will this be the year the kitchen cabinets FINALLY get refinished???]

20 bags in 20 days: I saw this idea on a friend’s Instagram (thanks Jenn Stricker at Random Vintage Finds ! She’s super crafty and smart)

Choose 20 (or 30 or 40- we are doing 20 because it’s just the two of us and our house is small) places in your home and then over the next 20 days fill a bag from each place, then toss or donate what you are cleaning out. Totally realistic.

Example places: bathroom closet, buffet, pantry, vanity/jewelry boxes, et cetera

And of course, as always (well, since 2010): 

CHOOSE JOY!  We will choose to be happy. We will not concentrate on the crappy. We will live in reality. We will count our blessings. We will be thankful everyday, especially Thursdays. We will pray that you find joy in the everyday.

CP’s Goals for 2014

Run: 4 days a week minimum

Low Carb Life: There is always some special occasion, that’s great but it’s not an excuse to eat pasta, bread, potatoes or dessert- so I’m going to knock that off.

Read 2 books a month: one Christian, one secular.  Check out my Goodreads link to the left.  Join Goodreads here

Daily Devotions: Jesus Calling by Sarah Young ( Facebook link )

Celebrate Wedding Anniversaries: when is yours? I’d be honored to pray for your marriage and recognize it as something you work at every day.  Birthdays are great, but we didn’t really DO anything – our mothers just gave birth…maybe we should be gifting mothers on our birthdays? We choose to be married. We choose to stay married. Marriage should be celebrated.

Scrapbook: I love it. Why don’t I ever do it? I am going to intentionally do this thing I love. I’m going to use supplies I have and not buy anything new

(only exceptions: Danielle’s wedding, State Fair entries and/or if it’s for a gift)

Make cards/Send cards: Thank yous, birthdays, anniversaries, get wells, sympathies…all of them. Recognize them.  A chance to be crafty.  A chance to love on someone.

Happy New Year, friends.

The Phillips: Vow Renewal in Vegas!

Nate and I met when I was 21 and he was 19. We met on a Thursday, had our first date a few Sundays later and we have been together every since. It's never been perfect, but how boring would that be!?

We grow together, we support each other's goals and dreams, we trust in God to get us through all of it. 

...maybe it is perfect. Our perfect.

On October 18th, 2013

Nate & Christina and Eric & Crystal renewed their vows in a double ceremony

in Las Vegas at The Elvis Chapel

Nate and Christina

We did not want a large, formal wedding when we got married on May 1, 2004.

We had one anyway. Lame. 

Facts of a Friendship

Crystal and I went to high school and college together

 Crystal and Eric met two months before Nate and I met each other

Crystal and I "broke up" for TEN years. We call it our divorce. It sucked.

We "got back together" 6ish years ago. Thank God.

Crystal & Eric and Nate & I got married during that ten year hiatus

Crystal and I were both sad on our wedding days that our best friend wasn't standing next to us

We needed to fix that!

Nate and I always wanted to run off to an island or find a cheesy Elvis in Vegas to make us official.

Crystal & Eric were up for the adventure and wanted to renew their vows too.

This also satisfied Crystal & Christina's need to have each other

 as "the bitch up front" (aka matron on honor, we are so classy)

We finally did it- on October 18, 2013!

Here are some of our fave photos for our 4 day Las Vegas Vow Renewal Adventure

Mr. and Mrs. R

Mrs. P

The Crew

at the Venetian- how cool are these guys?!

Crystal being beautiful

The guys being...well...them.

ha. love this one of Nate.

So cheesy-rific!

Crystal channeling her inner Elvis

Bitches up front

Limo rides. Of course our driver, David, was from Minnesota. 

And of course Eric made friends with him.

It was perfectly warm and Vegas-y

They are rarely serious.

Good times were had by all!

3 Rants and a Rave

3 Rants and a Rave!

New Segment to the blog- which I suspect will usually occur shortly after visiting Target, the grocery store or somewhere with copious amounts of children and/or crazy people. Meh, it is what it is.

Yes, I live by the mantra CHOOSE JOY! I'm trying. Every.Day.

But I also live in reality. Things bug me, things annoy me, and some things make me want me to punch people in the wrist. 

Ideally I’d like this to be 3 Raves and a Rant. We’ll see how that goes.

But today- for the first installment of this new segment:::

Three Ridic things I saw at Target over my lunch hour on Monday and then one thing that gave me hope in mankind.

THE RIDIC:

•   Hey lady- changing your newborn baby’s diaper. On the bench. Next to the automatic exit door. Your baby is screaming because THIS IS MINNESOTA, its 23 degrees out, your baby is naked and the door keeps opening- 30 more seconds and I would've taken your baby from you. Not sure you are smart enough to neither raise her nor keep her safe.
•  Two women, with carts, facing opposite directions (I know you've ALL experienced this). They are stopped, they are talking. They ignore my THREE “excuse me, please”/”excuse me, I just want to scoot past”/”pardon me, please”. NOTHING. They just look at me. REALLY?! It’s that hard to move to the side and let me through so I can get to the items I want to purchase?  I suspect these are the same people that would get furious if you did this to them. Ugh, narcissism- hard to escape it.
• Child in line in front of me wants to help his mom, well that’s cute enough. Then demands a sticker from the cashier as a reward for helping. The cashier COMPLIES (more on her later). The mother answers her iPhone and does not tell her child to 1) be polite. 2) don’t be rude. 3) be polite. The child, at NO point, says THANK YOU. Really?! Really?! He was 5ish, totally capable of this simple gesture.

THE RAVE!  

                As I unloaded my cart of Target goodies, yes of course triple the amount of what I went there to get, the cashier starts singing “Monday, Monday”.  She is SMILING! She is SINGING! She is HAPPY! Her attitude= contagious!!!  We then spent 4 minutes discussing all of the songs that she can sing on different days of the week.  She (Cheryl- North Saint Paul Target) was a pure joy to encounter.  Cheers to Cheryl for her great attitude and not letting that rude little boy change her mood. Cheers to a great customer service experience. Cheers to her contagious positive attitude! 

Reflection::: Top 10 Lessons of My 37 Years

So Predictable: had a birthday = life reflection time.

Yesterday was my birthday so I, of course, was doing some reflection on the last 37 years. I don't plan on repeating that number aloud much over the next year. 

 I now understand why people say "I'm 30-something". yep. totally get it.

My Top 10 lessons learned (not in order, necessarily) in my 37 years:

1. Embrace the power of coffee.

2. Don't lie. Yes, easy as that. Just don't.

(side note on this one, if you don't know this already:

If you LIE to me, I will find out. I will call you out. I will hold you accountable.)

3. Be thankful.

4. Sugar is yummy but very dangerous.

5. Comfort is overrated.

6. Have boundaries with your relationships. 
Boundaries, fences with gates.
 Not brick walls.

7. My relationship with Jesus is FAR MORE IMPORTANT than what anyone thinks about me, any other relationship and/or myself. 

Don't be ashamed of your relationship with Jesus.

8. Keep your finger off the trigger, but know where it's at and how to use it.

9. Don't procrastinate. Stay organized.

    

10. Choose Joy.